seeing my close friends excited about the point they’re at in their lives and hearing about their new experiences and new perspectives and new goals and them telling about how they’re in a good place right now makes me feel so happy that they’re moving on to bigger and better things and I’m just so happy for them and it’s all warm and fuzzy asdfghjkl
"We were discussing homosexuality because of an allusion to it in the book we were reading, and several boys made comments such as, “That’s disgusting.” We got into the debate and eventually a boy admitted that he was terrified/disgusted when he was once sharing a taxi and the other male passenger made a pass at him. The lightbulb went off. “Oh,” I said. “I get it. See, you are afraid, because for the first time in your life you have found yourself a victim of unwanted sexual advances by someone who has the physical ability to use force against you.” The boy nodded and shuddered visibly.“But,” I continued. “As a woman, you learn to live with that from the time you are fourteen, and it never stops. We live with that fear every day of our lives. Every man walking through the parking garage the same time you are is either just a harmless stranger or a potential rapist. Every time.” The girls in the room nodded, agreeing. The boys seemed genuinely shocked. “So think about that the next time you hit on a girl. Maybe, like you in the taxi, she doesn’t actually want you to.”"
Andrew Sullivan, Homophobia: The fear that another man will treat you like you treat women.
"But when we sit together, close, we melt into each other with phrases. We are edged with mist. We make an unsubstantial territory."
Virginia Woolf, from The Waves (Hogarth Press, 1931)